My husband Wayne and Scott spent a lot of hours talking about “when I go” this is what I would like from you……knowing it was years and years away. How wrong we were…..once more we learned that change is not only inevitable but absolute.
We went Sunday to help his daughter pack up his home, and we hated every minute…..she just stood there helpless while we took his things and gently placed them in boxes…..it brought back the time I had to take my parents house apart by myself, with the help of a dear friend at the time…..it feels so invasive, so wrong…..isn’t it amazing that feelings you have put deep deep inside safely tucked away spring forward just like that?????
My sons will help her find an apartment, she has a 5 year old son and he needs stability now more than ever that Grandpa is gone, and Mom is such a mess living in this place.
Another of Scott’s children, a youngest son came and got his tools and garage things, it was all he could do to get it done. He kept saying, I just know he is going to come around the corner and tell me to get away from his tools!” LOL I told him, “no, he is happy that they are going to the one son that will use always use them and think of him when you pull them out to do a job.”
His oldest son, is still not wanting to be in the house, but has had to realize this is the time…..you see the house is no longer Scott’s…..so in a way having to do this quickly is somewhat of a blessing. His daughter is living there and every morning she wakes up with her first thought being “Oh no, his is gone”…..
So….we are now a family of 5 children, and I even have grandkids!!! This rest of this year will be hard, but I know that this is what Scott asked for and we have loved these children who are now adults, for 20 years…..it is a blessing to continue to love them…..
I am sorry I seem to fluctuate between happy posts and posts such as this, but I know I can do this with you, my friends…..that is why you have come into my life…..this makes the pain more bearable….
Thank you for listening one more time…..
11 comments:
Such is life. Full of both happy and sad time. It is what is real.
Brenda
Such a blessing for Scott's children to have you & your family to help at this sad time. I know what you mean about clearing out - still haven't gone through my folks' things, but I'm finally getting ready to do it! Fortunately, I've had the gift of time & we have been able to let family members stay in their house.
Jane-Jacksonville
Please don't apologize for what you are writing about. Life is that way. As much as we love all the cute things, that is not all there is. I am sure that Scott felt blessed to know that you would help with this children. What a wonderful connection to come out of this sadness.
Yes no one said life was going to be easy and it's time like this that really test us. Good thing they all have you!
I agree thats what this place is for. Sharing our lives, the good and the bad, the happy and sad, the grateful, the joyful, and the mad...
this is a perfect place for all of it! I'm sorry that youre having to deal with your friends death, but Hang in there girlfriend! I have a feeling that youre going to be a blesing to his children!
xoxo
vivian
Sandy, I am so sorry for your loss. I've haven't been blogging much lately so I had to go back several pages to read what has transpired with your dear friend. I am sure you and your family were a blessing and comfort to him in his final days on this Earth and he would be so happy to know that you are looking after his family now. Bless you for helping them in their time of need. xxoo Nan
First, Your hubby has a JOB!!! Hooray and PTL!!
As the other gals said: what a blessing you are to them! Many emotions for all. Just take a day at a time...
Take care.
Warmly,
deb
Sandy,
Thank you! Your sweet words make me so happy!
Have a wonderful day!
Lindsey
You are such a blessing to this family. I'm glad they have you.
Wow...I came over here to thank you for your comment on my cabinet legs, but feel so bad for Scott's family. How tragic when life takes someone too soon. I'm actually about to leave and go to a visitation for a family friend. He dropped dead of a heart attack day before yesterday at the age of 61. I SO dread walking in there and facing his grieving wife and daughter. I grew up with his daughter and it's going to be so hard. :( I'm so glad you're there for Scott's family, I know they must be so happy to have you guys gathering around them.
hope you have a blessed week
missy
Oh, Sandy, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can imagine how difficult this must be for all of you. Please know that we're all here praying and rooting for you and Scott's family.
~Cindy
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