This last year has been hard to say the least and if you follow my blog you know that I have written before about the trials and tribulations my husband Wayne and I have had.
Not so long ago I felt we were at the end of the road….


Too much pain, too much betrayal, just… too much. Then God gave us a huge blessing, Wayne lost his job and neither of us could go anywhere.
I have read what feels like a million books on Forgiveness. Spoke to a wonderful minister that lives two doors down from us more than once, and one theme kept coming up in every book, every talk, you must start forgiveness with forgiving yourself. Myself? What did I do? So I kept reading and oh Lord, forgive me, I did plenty wrong and most of it with such anger! I have had a lot of long hard days and nights trying to wrap my mind around this and I am not even close to being done with this “forgiving yourself first” thing, in fact some days I hate the things I have said or done….and some days I hate the things he has done and said… today was one of those days. After another one of the many talks that are in our future, I feel we are making headway, I feel like we are both being heard…I had no idea it would be so tough…. looking at yourself and your partner with love, understanding, empathy, after hurting each other for way too long.
I always thought in my younger naïve years, this is what life would be most of the time…..silly thought I know, now that I am on the other side of youth.
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But in reality for me it has been more like this…..

I have struggled with major depression all of my adult life, been on meds and they helped… along with some counseling along the way, but no matter how good life was, that sadness was always in the shadows….waiting. Now I want you all to know this is NOT an excuse for my actions, it is not. It is however how I have looked at life for a very long time now. Most people will be surprised at this, especially people who have known me for a long time because I always seemed to be a pretty happy person, most of the time I exhausted myself with this “happy person” persona. I have made a commitment to myself to change that , and the more I learn, I more I accept, the more I let go of the hurts, the better I will feel. And the better all of my relationships will be.
I have a lot work in front of me, and more professional counseling when we can afford it, after Wayne finds work again, ( God’s time not ours, but Lord, the money is getting tight! ) but we are still here…..together.

I was pretty sure this would never be the way things would work out….so I am looking forward with this image in my head and my heart….

Hopeful and with Wayne and me beside each other to the end of this crazy winding road….
Thanks for listening…:)